O is for Orgasm Denial

O is for Orgasm Denial

I know that you expected that I would be blogging about orgasms, and in a way I am.  In the BDSM lifestyle training submissives and slaves to be able to hold their orgasms.  Denying orgasm is a form of power control and that is what most relationships are focused on.  In a Dom/sub and Master/slave  the sub or slave give over control and their Dom/Master considers all the orgasms Their orgasms and They have control of when any and all happen.  This control of orgasms can lead to a tolerance of increased stimulation and the ability to orgasm on command.  

No thank you Sir... Whipped Dreams 

N is for Nipple Clamps

N is for Nipple Clamps

Nipple clamps scare me!  I know they should not and that they are adjustable, and even that some pain is good and pleasurable, but it is just stuck in my head that nipples clamps are OUCH!  My nipples are very sensitive.  So Very Sensitive!  

I need to trust my Miss and Dom and bite the bullet and just give them a try and stop wincing every time they are mentioned.  I think They like when I wince at thoughts.  Their sadist sides show every time I do it.  

Perhaps it is just the look of the clamps, have you seen them? 

So let's review, nipple clamps OUCH!  Suction things...Yes, Please!  

Trying not to wince.... Whipped Dreams 

M is for Masochist

M is for Masochist

In a nutshell a masochist is someone that obtains pleasure from receiving punishment or pain.  Through that definition I am a masochist, as I do derive pleasure from beatings and pain.  For me as the pain starts and the endorphins start running through my body the pain quickly turns to pleasure as I reach a form of "subspace" a place where everything is kind of floaty.

 Each hit I receive allows the stress, frustration and annoyances in my life to just float away.  The harder I am hit (to a point) the farther is sends me and I start to giggle.  If there are people around and they softly shriek at the sound of me getting hit, it makes me giggle more.  

My Dom and Miss are very good at knowing how to keep me in that "subspace" and they know the importance of it in my life.  They also know when I am done and have had enough.  They are quick to make sure I am okay, They watch for signs that I may not be able to hold on much longer and at times They know before I do that I am done.  

Not so long ago I was afraid of pain.  I was afraid to hurt at all, and I have quickly learned that some pain can be your friend.  

Many people relieve their stress by crying.  I am not able to do that without days of intense headaches.  Getting beat for me allows the same release as people get from crying without the painful after effects.  The after effects from a good beating are some bruising and fogging feeling.  We have created essential oil blends to combat both of those things.  They are part of our Dom Trio.   The submissives friend helps ease the pain and swelling of a beating, the sub and Dom drops help combat the foggy, down feelings.   

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Beat me

Beat me

Make me 

Giggle.....     Whipped Dreams

L is for Leather

L is for Leather

The smell, the way it feels on my skin, they way it can be cut and shaped,.. Leather.  Of course there are different kinds of leather, some inspire a long breath drawn in that ends up with a lustful dreamy grin on my face, some that has the smell but it harsh when touched, some that feels as it will melt like butter if you hold it against your skin too long, and some that has been over worked and just meh.  I have a very large side of oil tanned deep black leather that I have a very hard time cutting.  My gut screams to me to take it to my room and use it as my sheets and keep incredibly warm while laying on it as it retains my body heat.  

Cutting leather takes up a lot of my days, creating floggers, toys and collars are a labor of love.   Treat leather well and it will treat you well for years to come.. 

These are two of my favorite leathers.... you can see them at www.etsy.com/shop/whippeddreams15XXX  

Yummmm Leather... Whipped Dreams 

K is for Kinky

K is for Kinky

Of course K is for Kinky, how could it be for anything else?  What is kinky sex?  According to the dictionary it is anything unusual, bizarre, or deviant in a sexual way or manner.  

So this leaves me pondering,  once you have done something "kinky"  does it stop being "kinky" after a few times as it no longer fits the definition.  If you have been tied up and bound to a bed a dozen times, it becomes your normal sexual behavior, it is no longer unusual or bizarre by your standards.  Kinky then moves over to those people over there doing that stuff you have not tried yet.  Kinky then becomes the wild, creative stuff you have not tried yet! 

Kinky should not be confused with your "kink"  which is what someone is really into at the moment. My "kink" is getting beat with thuddy impact things.  Anything can be a "kink" or a fetish which is something that interests you in a sexual way.  Boobs, feet, rope, chains, leather, latex, are just a few kinks there are as many as there are things in the world.  Kinks need to be respected as long as they they are done in a safe, sane and consensual manner.  One of the rules in the BDSM world is "your kink may not be my kink, but your kink is okay".  Respect is shown to the person(s) regardless if their preferred kink is yours or not.   

Find your Kink, Be Kinky and Kink On!!!    Whipped Dreams 

J is for Jack and Jill Off

J is for Jack and Jill Off 

No, they are not long lost relatives that are never invited for holidays.  They refer to self pleasuring or masturbation, by yourself or in groups.  Masturbation is a normal and common thing, you will not grow hair on your palms, or go insane, or blind as I was taught in my Catholic school  education.  

Researchers have found that masturbation happens in the womb, so you have been doing it forever! There are many health benefits to masturbation both physical and mental.  It is relaxing, brings down your chances of heart attack, improves sleep, relieve headaches and cramps and creates a sense of well being.  Masturbation can also improve your sex life as you learn how and where you like to be touched, what makes you orgasm, and increase the ability to have orgasms. 

Mutually masturbating with a partner can show by example how you like to be touch and you can learn from your partner exactly the sensations they prefer.  It is also a safe alternative to penetrative sex when pregnancy or std's are a concern

So go ahead Jack and Jill Off.. it's good for you!  

Happy Orgasms... Whipped Dreams 

I is for Ice.. as in cubes.

I is for Ice.. as in cubes.

My Miss loves to use ice cubes when She is flogging me.  If She sees that marks that are too red or just too many red marks She will pick up some ice cubes and run them across the marks and welts to cool them down.. It feels fantastic... and then it sends shivers and goosebumps.  Just when I take a relaxing breath and relax a bit the ice has melted and the floggers, whips and crops are back into action.  I am cooled down enough to continue.  

Another favorite of Hers it to put toys are items of ass destruction into an ice bath and let them sit until the perfect time to pull them out and apply them to my body.  Metal that is now wet and freezing applied to my skin feels amazing..and then it is applied to my clit which causing almost a burning sensation.  When the freezing cold object is held there then abruptly taken away it causes the area that so quickly cooled to just as quickly warm again, which causes swelling.  This is the mix of pain and pleasure.  The sensation is so utterly wicked and sensual... I would not have it any other way!  Thank you Miss! 

Sincerely, 

Whipped Dreams